Coping with Depression - Self Assistance and Dealing Tips
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The idea of touching out to even private kinfolk members and acquaintances can appear intense. You may feel disgraced, too worn out to talk, or shamed for neglecting the kinship. Remind yourself that this is the depression speaking. Mental therapy is an exceedingly competent handling for depression. Therapy gives you instruments to treat clinical depression from a diversity of tilts.
Divine Alchemy gives you the opportunity to express the harmony, the symphony from within. Basically what that means is, you’re not clinging to circumstances being the same. And because you’re not clinging to them being the same, they begin to flow. In other words, I’m not fixating it. , I’m not fixing them in time and space. You’re not trying to say, “They can only be this way.” This is the great difficulty of the concept of objective reality, is that if you talk to various people, you find that objective reality is different for different people. Even amongst scientists, certain phenomena of nature are viewed differently.
If lead can be turned into gold, maybe I’m not trapped by my fate. And maybe I can actually cultivate the qualities of being that I really want to manifest in my life, knowing that as I cultivate those qualities of being and live them, that it changes; it changes, it literally puts me in almost a different realm. It expands the possibilities of where I can go, of the choices I can make, exponentially. When you say a different realm, then, you might even be talking about a different dimension, interacting in a completely different way with everything; maybe even having contact with things I didn’t have contact with before.
And yet if you’re doing it right, it doesn’t negate this dimension. It doesn’t negate this realm. It’s not a point of going to somebody else’s planet. It’s not that you’re going to some angelic realm and leaving this planet. You’re staying here, you’re just different here.
What happensand this is so far outis that we live, we are manifest, in a multiplicity of realms. And that, by directing ourselves, by creating the person that we want to be, by bringing forth the Love, the Compassion, the Wholeness, the Continuity of Being that we want to bring forthand manifesting that in our lives, manifesting that with my action, not manifesting it in my life by changing the circumstances of those around me, but manifesting it by my actionthen my action is guided by my Soul’s Purpose, my truth, that I’m discovering and opening up to as I live. As I do that, it’s going to change not only my life, but the lives of every person that I run into. It’s actually revelatory in the sense that iit is something that opens up in an ongoing way. So Ghandi’s autobiography is called My Experiments With Truth, which we talked about in the Everyday Sanyasin series. He’s saying, I have a sense of truth, and I am living, I’m manifesting, through myself, my sense of truth. I’m literally using the Power of Soul, the Power of Soul Incarnate. And I’m watching how everything happens.
Yogi Sean is the student of Swami Ramananda and the author of Dancing in the Fire of Transformation and The Everyday Sanyasin.
“For Christ also suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God” (1 Peter 3:18).
Always in sorrow God’s love and justice are questioned. How could a good God be so cruel and so uncaring of those made in His image? Indeed, if He knew Adam and Eve would sin, why did He create them at all? I think in deep sorrow this becomes a crucial and valid question.
Perhaps we can take some comfort in Isaiah 57:1-2: “The righteous perishes, and no man takes it to heart; merciful men are taken away while no one considers that the righteous man is taken away from evil.” No one considers! How true. Jesus’ disciples were so bewildered when their lovely Companion and Friend died on the Cross. Dear God, they must have cried to heaven, Love nailed to a Cross? This Man they lived with, walked with and worked with for over three years was subjected to the cruelest of deaths. How could they know that out of this seeming failure would arise the Son of Man and Son of God in eternal glory; that humankind would be given God’s beauty for Jesus’ ashes of suffering; that mankind would be anointed with the oil of joy, God’s Holy Spirit; that the grieving world would be dressed with the garment of praise for a spirit of heaviness through this ultimate act of man’s inhumanity to Man? How can we know that out of our dear and dead children’s ashes will arise a good and goodness? Because our Father is just and His promises are true!
In Psalm 98:14 we are told not only of justice being the foundation of God’s throne, but of the symbolism of the twin angels of mercy and truth (one version reads loving-kindness and faithfulness). Psalm 85:10 tells us: “Mercy and truth have met together; Righteousness and peace have kissed.” What a lovely vision for questioning hearts! Psalm 25:10 assures us: “All the paths of the Lord are mercy and truth” and Psalm 26:3 reassures us: “For Your loving-kindness is before my eyes.”
Wherever and whenever God goes, His justice, love and faithfulness accompany Him. It is reported that when Abraham Lincoln was shot in Ford’s Theater, James Garfield shouted above the panic-stricken crowd, “Fellow Citizens, `Justice and judgment are the habitation of His throne.’” Here is the moral basis for God’s Kingship. How then can we blame God for evil: “Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation” (Matthew 12:25). Remember, Friend, this is Jesus speaking! I believe with all my broken heart that one of Satan’s most successful ploys is convincing us that God is responsible for earth’s evils and sufferings. Satan must literally dance for joy when a person actually believes that the malignities and perversities of this life are “acts of God”! We are unjust who accuse God of being unjust. It is Satan who is the accuser of the brethren and who delights in our blaming God when calamity strikes. “For God is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33) and grief is not peace but a terrible spiritual anarchy.
I realize that in desolation our hearts are hardly open to the logic and logistics of this aberrant world in which we live and we seem to battle forces we feel too much beyond our control. When we want–indeed, need–to question why we have been thrown into the “bottom of the monstrous world,” as Milton so aptly termed it, we might consider that we are not our own (1 Corinthians 6:19), and neither are our beloved dead. We were bought with the fearsome price of the agony and death of the Man of Sorrows Himself. If we believe in Jesus and the Atonement then we know He literally bought us and our children, and “if we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s” (Romans 14:8). God has equitable jurisdiction as Creator and Redeemer. “Behold, all souls are Mine,” God tells us in Ezekiel 18:4. This implies authority and ownership.
Calvin, whose puritanical pronouncements hardly belie a soft theology, recognized that God possessed “a paternal affection towards the whole human race which He created and formed.” We can thank God, even with breaking hearts, that He wills all to be saved. Indeed, I believe that one of the greatest promises in His Word is in John 12:32: “And I, if I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all peoples to Myself.” This surely is His highest and noblest will, considering how humankind has ignored, denied and despised the One to whom they owe life itself.
It is possible only with God as our Guide to believe that sorrow does work toward a good, and whatever good does sift its way to the top of our muddy waters comes from God’s grace only. Someone has wisely observed that there is a faith which instead of moving mountains prevents mountains of evil from moving. Jeremy Taylor speaks great comfort to our hearts: “God, who in mercy and wisdom governs the world, would never have suffered so many sadnesses, and have sent them especially to the most virtuous and the wisest [people], but that he intends they should be the seminary of thought, the nursery of virtue, the exercise of wisdom, the trial of patience, the venturing for a crown, and the gate of glory.”
In our quest for justice we always ask why, for we will always lose loved ones and our cherished plans will sometimes fail. Emily Dickinson pens it well:
Love’s stricken “why”
Is all that love can speak —
Built of but just a syllable
The hugest hearts that break.
We ask why does the sun shine on the evil and the good, and the rain fall on the just and the unjust (Matthew 5:45)? Surely, if we have any sensibilities at all, so often it seems that justice and mercy are indeed on the scaffold and wrong on the throne of undeserved glory. In fact, wickedness shouts to be noticed and honored through every age. We need only note the idols and heroes the world worships.
The most agonized “why” ever on this grievous earth was the cry of dereliction from the Cross, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” (Matthew 27:46). There on that instrument of death Jesus moaned the why of all who feel God-forsaken and just forsaken; who see the darkness homing in relentlessly and inescapably. Why, my God? Why my son? Why Your Son? Why anyone’s beloved child? Why death at all? But questions become useless and, worse, a stone in the way of the Rock of Ages. Our Father asks us to remove the stone from the tomb of our sorrow and believe that He has the answers. We may not know the answers here on earth, but He does have them!
My definition of procrastination is that a person delays
and delays actions that are
required by a job or actions
necessary to accomplish something
in everyday life.
Depression is a mental state that
“almost freezes” a person into no
action at all.
While procrastination can be over-
come by a change of behavior and
attitude, depression has its
core issues of lassitude, feelings
of hopelessness, anger and of giving
up.
What do the two have in common? I
think that procrastination is often
a temporary trait, but depression
is something that will takes lots of
time and energy to overcome. Both
lead to a lack of action.
It is action, however, that has to
take place for a job seeker to have
success. Personal procras-
tination takes time to overcome.
Overcoming depression, if it is long-
term, may take the intervention of
either a professional or drug
therapy.
Both mental places have the effect of
“dampening down” the actions of the
job seeker. Elimination of both
of these negative states of mind, has
to take place for a job seeker to be
minimally effective.
I think it is the “keep moving” philosophy that works!
c, 2004-05
Marilyn J. Tellez, M.A.
Certified Job & Career Transition Coach
Email: doitnow@nwinfo.net
Web: http://www.doitnowcareers.info
Anticipatory grief has been described as a “normal process,” but life is far from normal if you’re going through it. Some experts list symptoms in broad terms, and others list them in detail. Short list or long, anticipatory grief symptoms are jarring.
You may have bouts of crying, for example, a symptom that upsets you and those around you. You may hold back your tears because you have to be strong for your loved one. All through the day you have a choked feeling in your throat. Holding back tears takes lots of energy and, before long, you’re exhausted.
You don’t talk publicly about your grief because you’re afraid of the reactions you’ll get. It takes courage to “grieve in a society that mistakenly values restraint,” according to Judy Tatelbaum, author of “The Courage to Grieve.” But if you’re going to heal you must face anticipatory grief and its symptoms. Your survival depends on this self-honesty.
ANTICIPATORY GRIEF SYMPTOMS ARE A BIG DEAL IF YOU HAVE THEM.
Just as reading about the flu differs from getting it, reading about anticipatory grief differs from experiencing it. Suddenly, anticipatory grief is personal and you can’t escape its symptoms. “What happened to my life?” you may ask.
Antiipatory grief happened and the symptoms include denial, mood swings, forgetfulness, disorganized and confused behavior, anger, depression, feeling disconneced and alone. You may have health symptoms, too, such as weight loss or gain, sleep problems, nervous behavior, and general fatigue.
Fatigue and the strain of handling symptoms can lead to depression. Keep in mind that depression isn’t the same as the blues. You may wish to talk with a physician to see if you’re depressed. Depression is treatable and new medications can get you over this hump.
EACH SYMPTOM IS POWERFUL.
The worst symptoms of all - anxiety and dread - illustrate this point. Robert Fulton, PhD and Robert Bendiksen, PhD discuss anxiety in their book, “Death & Identity.” You expect your loved one to die, they explain, but “exactly when it will take place is not known.”
The suspense is unbearable. If you feel this badly now, how will you feel when your loved one is gone?
Talking about feelings will help you to relieve anxiety. Instead of brooding alone, talk with a trusted friend. Your church and local hospital may have grief support groups. You may also get support from national associations, such as the Alzheimer’s Association.
THE INTENSITY OF THE SYMPTOMS VARIES.
Having the symptoms is bad enough, but these symptoms also vary in intensity. What a bummer. Your anticipatory grief symptoms are always present, interrupting thoughts, nagging at you, adding to your worry and sorrow. Like a roller coaster track, your emotions zig-zag up and down.
These may be your feelings, but identifying them is hard. Keeping a diary is one way to identify and track your feelings. Your partner and familily members may also be able to help you. When all is said and done, however, you must help yourself.
This is good time to draw upon your personality strengths. Use your intelligence, skills, and hobbies to your advantage. Prepare yourself for the variations in intensity because they’ll happen. You’ll also need to prepare yourself for a long haul.
THE TIME FACTOR GRINDS YOU DOWN.
Depending on your loved one’s illness, you may grieve for year, five years, 10 years, or more. The slow decline of a loved one is a heavy burden. Edward Myers, in his book “When Parents Die,” says this burden comes with special hardships. Myers compares a slow decline to an advancing glacier.
A sudden death hits you like an explosion, Myers explains, and sends you into shock, whereas a slow deline “arrives more like a glacier, massive and unstoppable, grinding you down.” Dealing with the symptoms of anticipatory grief gets harder with each passing day.
HELPING YOURSELF IS A BIG DEAL TOO.
One thing you can do is give yourself permission to cry. Tears are an emotional release, according to Jeffrey A. Kottler, author of “The Language of Tears.” He thinks crying brings people together. When you cry and share your story with others they share their stories with you.
You may compile a support list. Put contact names, phone numbers, and email addresses on your list. Add anticipatory grief “prescriptions” to your list, things like a daily walking group, half-day cooking class, or book club meeting.
Anticipatory grief symptoms are a big deal. Handling these symptoms is one of the best deals you’ll ever make with yourself. The things you learn today will brighten your tomorrows.
Copyright 2005 by Harriet Hodgson. To learn more about her work go to http://www.harriethodgson.com.
Harriet Hodgson has been a nonfiction writer for 27 years and is a member of the Association of Health Care Journalists. Her 24th book, “Smiling Through Your Tears: Anticipating Grief,” written with Lois Krahn, MD, is available from http://www.amazon.com. A five-star review of the book is also posted on Amazon. The book is packed with Healing Steps - 114 in all - that lead readers to their own healing path.
